Kail Lowry Reveals What Happened When She Went to Texas to Confront Her Dying Estranged Father – The Ashley’s Reality Roundup

Kail Lowry recently returned from a trip to Texas, where confronted her estranged father, Ray Lowry, on his deathbed, hoping to get answers to questions she had about her childhood and why he abandoned her. During the most-recent episode of her Karma & Chaos podcast, Kail disclosed what happened when she saw her dad face-to-face. 

As fans will remember, Kail had only met her father once before— during the filming of her 16 and Pregnant episode in 2009. The meeting did not go well, and Kail did not stay in contact with Ray. In July, Kail revealed that Ray is now on hospice due to him having stage 4 chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD). She also revealed plans to fly to Ray’s home in Texas to confront him before he dies to get answers to her questions. 

“I feel like you don’t get to die without answering all the questions I have,” she said in July. “ … I want to know why he left. I want to know why he didn’t try harder. I want to know why he just gave up.”

On Tuesday’s episode of Karma & Chaos Kail spoke about what happened when she arrived at her dad’s home in Texas. (Sadly, she did not reveal if Ray still has his infamous locked-up meat freezer). 

“I went in there angry, and sort of not really open-minded, just more so doing it because everyone told me I’d regret it [if I didn’t],” Kail said. “I had all these conflicting feelings. I pulled into the driveway saying, ‘My dad can kiss my ass and I’m gonna tell him how I feel.’ From the time I got out of the car to the time I got to the front door, I was already crying. I was already sobbing. And then just hearing his — and I don’t want to call it his side of the story because he didn’t really tell a story— but he let me ask every single question I had.”

Kail then showed her co-host Becky Hayer her notes from the visit, which she entitled “Death Bed Questions.” 

Kail previously revealed that her father was on oxygen, but was “having a good day” when she came to visit. 

“You could tell he was getting pretty winded for the longer answers,” she said, adding that she filmed “everything from my point of view.” 

“You can hear his voice but you can’t see him,” Kail said of her footage from the trip. “I’m going to post them because I really think this could help somebody.” 

Kail stated that she learned a lot from visiting her dad, including that her mom Suzi (whom she is also estranged from) had lied to her during her childhood and teen years about not knowing where Ray was.

“My mom had his phone number the whole time! My mom was in contact with him the whole time,” Kail said. “In fact [she] called him while I was there [during my ’16 and Pregnant’ episode] and said, ‘So, what do you think?’”

Kail stated that she does feel “lighter” since visiting her father.

“When I left, it was so interesting because he was like, ‘You still look mad,’” Kail said.

Kail said that, while she wasn’t feeling mad at her dad any longer, she was still processing everything.

“It’s just, like, a lot,” she said. “I spent essentially 30 years of my life being so angry and so mad, that it’s not going to, like, go away overnight. However, I visited him I guess five days ago. There are no regrets. There are no questions I wish I had asked that I didn’t ask. There were no answers I wasn’t satisfied with. I feel lighter, I feel more at peace. I feel forgiveness for him. I think all my anger was very misplaced. He did what he could for what he had, but he didn’t have a whole lot. 

“My mom’s family was rallying around her to make sure I was good. My dad didn’t have that. My dad was by himself and he was trying,” Kail continued. “He went to every single court date regarding me for the first two years. Then he got a final order [saying] that he had to stay away from me. I didn’t know that. I didn’t know there was a court order to stay away. At that point, like, what could he do? He could’ve called but my mom moved around so much it’s possible that she had his phone number but he didn’t have hers.”

“Overall, I am so glad that I went. I’m glad my sister was able to go, and I’m glad my aunt was able to coordinate the visit. I have no regrets at all and I hope to be able to go see him one more time before he dies,” Kail added.

The former ‘Teen Mom’ star said she was encouraged by her sister to next go find her mom, Suzi, whom she hasn’t seen for years. 

Last year, Kail spoke on one of her podcasts about her estrangement from Suzi, stating that she feels badly for cutting Suzi out of her life. (As ‘Teen Mom 2’ fans will remember, Kail has had a very strained relationship with Suzi for the majority of her life, due in part to Suzi’s alcoholism. Suzi has only met two of Kail’s seven kids because of this.)

“The guilt has eaten me alive,” Kail said. “…Like, I cut off my own mom by choice, and it eats me alive every single day.”

Back in January 2024, Kail revealed on one of her podcasts that Suzi tried to contact her via Facebook message after Kail spoke about her mom on a podcast. 

“I think [the message said], ‘I love you, and I always will,’ or something like that…It took me a minute, but I messaged her back, ‘Then how could you walk this earth knowing that you have all these grandkids and you don’t care?’” Kail said. “And her response to that really pissed me off. Because she goes back and forth with [taking] accountability [for her past actions].

“She was like, ‘And your life? Walk a mile.’ And I was like, ‘Ma’am, you made my life hard. You very much f**ked me up. You chose whatever your life [was going to be].’ To this day, from all accounts that I have gotten about my mom’s life, my mom did not live a very difficult life. My mom chose a difficult [life]. She went down a path that ultimately…contributed to the life she’s living now. 

“…I don’t understand how you can say ‘Walk a mile’ when you chose that,” Kail continued. 

Kail’s interaction with her mom was short-lived, as Kail stated that Suzi ended up blocking her on Facebook.

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